by Gretchen Peiffer, contributor
If you heal your past trauma and work on the patterns that come along with them, you will attract healthy and meaningful relationships. Always be open minded. If you do, you may find your true self like I did. You can’t avoid triggers and suppress them. Acknowledge they are there and be compassionate with yourself.
Every time I got triggered, it was a reminder that I was ignoring my own needs or true self. Triggers made me more self-aware.
The only way to heal them is through self-love. It’s your responsibility to heal yourself, no one else can do it for you. Ask yourself, “Where am I falling short? “What do I want more in my life?” Don’t be afraid to settle for more because you are so worth it.
I discovered it were only the wounds and the patterns I had that told me I was unworthy. Moving through this has led me to abundance.
I feel more balanced and at peace because I started to embrace who I am, including my Filipino side which I mostly neglected.
It wasn’t easy growing up as mixed-race half Filipina half Belgian. I often felt misunderstood and judged. The best moment of my awakening must have been when I have discovered I resonated more with the Filipino values and culture. I felt a strong pull within.
The best thing I could do no matter how hard, scary and painful it was to move through all of it to come out on the other side as a light to inspire others and share my journey. Especially Filipinos because they have this energy that is worth sharing to the world.
By doing the inner work I found out that it was my belief system and patterns that I needed to work on. The more I was paying attention and became self-aware the more I was able to identify the parts that I was trying to hide. I managed to get rid of the resistant energy it only made me tired and go against who I am.
All answers are to find within but the people around us are like mirrors through there energy that can lit our inner spark and glow again. I only needed to allow them to put my guard down. Luckily I was open enough to realize that the people around us show us where we are blocking ourselves.
I am embracing and acknowledging the Filipino side fully. People around me will continue to give me signs when I will be out of alignment and will have to put that switch on again.
I am beyond grateful I learned how to move through the triggers. I learned to accept them as a part of me. Revealing my true self and values. It’s when you learn how to embrace yourself, acknowledge who you truly are, the good and bad, that you become comfortable being yourself. It’s about becoming self-sufficient by taking care of your own needs yourself.
I am no longer afraid to lose people, in fact, I am more afraid of losing myself in others. That’s why I am watching my energy, being aware of where it goes. I have taken my energy back and focused it more on myself.
In the past, most of the people couldn’t handle my energy because I was too bright, and my energy felt pure. I am now aware I must have triggered them. The truth is you will never be too much for those who resonate with your energy.
When I become triggered next time, I will go within and ask myself why it triggered me. I would never allow this to affect me or change who I am and how I feel about myself. I am now aware, it’s just a projection of someone else’s pain.